Simple productivity learnings

Simple productivity learnings

  1. Work in series not parallel “We underestimate what we can do in a year and overestimate what we can do in a day” Tim Ferriss. I’m notorious for this always taking on more than I can do. Saying yes to too many projects and Start by moving things forward a bit at a time, don’t expect to finish in a day but an hour here and there can really build up. 
  2. How could this be easy? Making it easy and in smaller was how I finally started to crack my habits, 5 mins of Yoga I can do that, an hour, now that’s too much! Start simple cause it’ll only get more complicated. Schedule it in is another great one, if it’s in your calendar your more likely to do it. 
  3. Reflect and forward plan. Top tip from my Dad this year was to have a long term goal (one at a time). He gets up super early (army training) to spend time reflecting on the goal and coming up with ideas to get there.  I’m not that good but I’ve been doing it on sunday eve as I plan the week ahead. It really helps.
  4. Hell yeah then no principle. I’ve learned this from one of the women I work with and recently heard it again in a Derek Sivers interview. If it’s not hell yeah then say no. Time is the most valuable thing we have and if I we can learn to say no more often we’ll have more time to do the things we really love. 
I have a point of view

I have a point of view

“One of the things i find in the people i love working with is that they are very eclectic, curious, interested in lots of different things paying attention in whats going on in the world, and they are growing as a human being, are humanistic, have values and thats where a point of view comes from.” Kathleen Kennedy, Producer

On the Nerdist Podcast

Thoughts on diversity

Thoughts on diversity

I was trying to think of interesting people to tweet Josh Spector for his a great website personyoushouldknow. I was surprised to realize that most of the people that came to my mind were white males.

I consume a lot of information. I watch talks, listen to podcasts, read blogs…. So why couldn’t I think of a more diverse group of people? Why couldn’t I think of people like myself; black and or female?

Where’s the diversity at?

I’m mostly focusing on gender and racial diversity, but I believe that diversity across the board is important. Not just for the most vocal groups.

Maybe it’s a change in my consciousness but I’m beginning to notice more and more that things still aren’t as equal as we all hope. It’s been decades since racism became unacceptable socially, and decades since women fought for equal rights and equal pay.

I’m starting to ask why?

Why is it the same faces at the top?  Why is a female superhero always a sidekick? Why are there so few people with disabilities on our screens? Why do Middle Eastern Muslims have to apologise for the actions of a small group of people? Why do we still judge people by the stereotypes? Why is a male boss strong and a female boss a bitch? Why do young black boys smoking a bit of weed get a harsher treatment than bankers who destroy livelihoods? Why do we still associate all the isms with class?

It’s sad to say that even today there’s still a sense of tokenism that pervades our society. We know the stories there cant be two black models with Tyra Banks and Naomi Campbell. Women CEO’s hired in crisis “look things are changing” then fired when times are good.

At Architecture school I was often the only black person in my year. In many places I work in today I’m still the only one. Most of the time I barely notice. I almost become more conscious of my race when I travel (I spent this summer in Cambodia and having people literally stop and stare open mouthed is an interesting experience!)

In order for us to truly succeed we need diversity.

I don’t believe that the solutions are as big or as hard as we make out. There are already smatterings of change thanks to the knowledge age. We have more power now than ever before to choose. To choose what we take in, what we experience, what we disseminate, who we connect with…..

Look at the rise in feminism. It’s cool thanks to people like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Beyonce and Taylor Swift. We are proudly declaring we are feminists a changing the militant man-hating image that was so identified with it just a few years ago.

However racial diversity is still a taboo. I was recently at the planning of an event and following from an idea of showcasing more women in the field I brought up showcasing diversity. I could feel the discomfort rise. Someone pointed out that we don’t want to seem angry and moany.

Why is it so hard to talk? 

It’s uncomfortable. It’s much easier to be practice blindness. To say the opportunities are there, people just aren’t taking them, to say stop complaining stop being angry, to pretend not to notice, to blame the media, to let others doing the hard work, to be cynical and say things will never change.

 Most of the time it’s just status quo we don’t need to question it. I mean it’d be stranger to see a diverse group of people on TV or a diverse boardroom.

“I don’t know whether I’m proud or anything. I’m happy that we’re able to mesh together in this ensemble cast and create a wonderful story. It’s Hollywood’s fault, for letting this get so far, that when a black person or a female, or someone from a different cultural group is cast in a movie, we have to have debates as to whether they’re placed there just to meet a [quota]. I also understand, on the flip side, where these other mentalities will arise. ‘He’s just placed there for political correctness.’ I don’t hear you guys saying that when Brad Pitt is there. When Tom Cruise is there. Hell, when Shia LaBeouf is there, you guys ain’t saying that. “ John Boyenga interview. 

It’s no use us just talking within ourselves as a friend of mine says, it becomes a black issue, or a womens issue or a disability issue when it’s everybody’s issue.

So what can we do?

We need to start noticing & start talking.

Sometimes I have to experience something to notice it. A third of a company I was working at was made redundant and I realized that though women made a smaller proportion of the office we made the majority of the redundancies. It was the first time I saw how subtle sexism could be, like putting women in lower contribution positions where we’re easier to get rid of.

But we don’t have to wait till it happens to us or to someone we know. We can educate ourselves on the issues. There’s so much information. And being more aware means we can start to consciously question what we see.

Watching Miss Representation opened my eyes to how awfully women are presented in the media. Now it really bothers me when I watch a film/ TV show and I spot this. I had to stop watching the Walking Dead because it was ridiculous that the women were still doing the washing up at the end of the world!

I can also appreciate when it’s done well. Shows like Master of None, Orange is the new Black, Capital deal with issues of race, gender, and identity in such a human and multifaceted way that is incredibly refreshing.

We need more stories

“White people I don’t think you realize how lucky you are. If one of you is a prick to me, I don’t think all white people are pricks. I’m a bloody representative; Your interactions with me determine how you feel about brown people. It’s all right if I’m in London there’s enough of us to balance it out. But if I’m in bloody Devon…. I’ve got to behave like im C3PO.” Romesh Ranganathan, British Comedian

In her talk the Danger of the Single Story Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie explains so eloquently why we need more stories.

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Multifaceted stories. Portrayals where people aren’t caricatures or tokens like the black judge who doesn’t even speak.

A brilliant example of this is Humans of New York. Brandons latest series on Syrian refugees moving to America has done so much to put human faces to the single story we see in the media. I love reading the comments and seeing how many people across the world are changing their perceptions.

Socializing with people that are ‘different’ from us also opens up our worldview and our understanding of each other. As Jamie Foxx explained in his interview with Tim Ferriss, going to university he met people from all over the world. People whose countries we’re in direct conflict, like Israel and Palestine and they were able to became friends.

Stories and human connections increase our empathy. Our ability to see beneath the labels to the human below and realize we are no different. To see the spectrum of humanity that exists.

It also raises our aspirations; as they say you can’t be what you cant see. Maybe films like Frozen where a generation of young girls connect to the single, powerful queen are making an impact.

We need to analyse our values

“A male hero, at best, lacks the qualities of maternal love and tenderness which are as essential to a normal child as the breath of life. Suppose your child’s ideal becomes a superman who uses his extraordinary powers to help the weak. The most important ingredient in the human happiness recipe still is missing—love. It’s smart to be strong. It’s big to be generous. But it’s sissified, according to exclusively masculine rules, to be tender, loving, affectionate, and alluring … And that’s the point; not even girls want to be girls so long as our feminine archetype lacks force, strength, power.” William Marston, wonder girl

We denigrate the value of the ‘feminine’. We look down on women who want to be stay at home mums. We tell our boys to stop acting like girls, we tell women to speak like a ‘man’ to be respected. We say moderate your appearance to be taken seriously. Everything a woman wears comes with a judgment.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB3xM93rXbY 

The worlds toughest job.

We devalue black culture. We use words like ‘masters’ to describe Asian art and ‘primitive’ to describe African art. We see slang or patois or any other speech pattern as inferior. We think a compliment is as comment like David Starkey saying black Tottenham MP David Lammy, “sounded white.” Or you’re pretty for a black girl.

We tell immigrants to be a ‘good immigrant.’ We think every culture apart from ours is inferior. We “Exult in the crimes of others and in our nobility of opposing them.”

In the west we’ve created a system that values one way of being above all others. The old white male and all the attributes we associate with that are at the top of our pyramid. We are told to be more like this in order to be valued. Fit this frame so we can like you.

It’s all a value judgment, there is no right or wrong just what we perceive. We are beginning to question this more vocally.

 

 

We need more opportunities

The truth is opportunities aren’t created equally. Where you live, your race, your gender, your physical abilities determine what opportunities come your way. It’s not that there aren’t enough capable people across the diverse groups. Research has shown we tend to choose people that are familiar.

I was really touched watching Land Fillharmonic. At the end of the film one of the young people thanked their teacher for giving them the opportunity to dream. She was right. The world would never have met such amazing musicians if the opportunity hadn’t been brought to them.

One way to increase the opportunity pool is with quotas. Norway is the first country in the world to mandate that women account for 40% of it’s board seats.

Then reaction is always that’s not a meritocracy! The quality won’t be as good. It’s as though we live in an actual meritocracy, how many people get jobs because they apply versus because they know someone? On the flip side how many people go to jail because of their race?

We need better access to opportunities

A brilliant example of actually increasing access was a talk I saw at the Scottish Learning Festival. The Duke of Edinburgh Award in the UK is looking at how it can widen its participation and change it’s image from a white middle class boys thing. A school in Edinburgh with the help of Khaleda Noon realized that they had to tailor the programme in order to do this. They set up girl only sessions that ran during the school day instead of afterschool meaning that girls from a ethnic backgrounds could attend. It seems like such a small change but it made a huge difference to who could attend.

We need to do the same thing across the board. Instead of saying we’re not getting a diverse pool of candidates, we need to go back the way and work out where the change is. In order to make a change we need to understand the problem.

That’s one way quotas help it gradually widens the choice of candidates.

For example we have more women than men graduating, so what happens between graduating and reaching high positions? Where do we put women where they start? Do we stream them into dead end positions? Do we penalize them for choosing to have families through actions like firing pregnant women or taking away flexible working. Are we looking at the long term or the short term?

“Dr Ferreira noted that while quotas can achieve gains in the long run, they are associated with costs in the short run.” – Report by the House of Commons Treasury Committee, Women in the City, April 2010

Change can happen.

I believe that we can have a world where;

We listen, observe and connect with open minds, hearts and empathy.

We won’t need to be 10 times as good to be seen

Where “there can be a feminist man, doing good womens work” as Johnetta.

Diversity is sustainable, diversity is beautiful, diversity is innovation.

 

Jumbled thoughts on WRITING LIKE YOU SPEAK

Jumbled thoughts on WRITING LIKE YOU SPEAK

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I’ve been thinking about this since reading Paul Grahams Essay about Writing like you speak. 

What does that mean?

I don’t think I speak all that well sometimes, my everyday speech is all over the place and like many Nigerians I like to use big words (why use a small one when a big one will impress!)

I guess it means show your personality and stories. The spectrum that you would give to the people you care about.  

As Alain De Botton says the writers we like the most are the ones we get a flavour of the person. They seem like a really nice, friendly person that you could go for a coffee with.

So if you talk endlessly in word vomit, like Jen Bilik, try writing that way. If you like big words use them.

Tip’s that I’ve found really helpful

A great tip from Paul Graham is to read aloud what you write and if it doesnt sound like you, edit it. 

A friend of mine told me, “I want to know what is interesting for you. Not necessarily the facts. What experiences have you had that make it spark for you? Explain them.”

Write what frustrates you.

Write it to a friend or loved one. 

Some great articles I’ve found about writing

Writing an about me Page by Rachel MacDonald 

About me page on 99u 

Copy writing tips from Hemingway, Jane Austen, George Orwell and more 

How to write the perfect blog post 

Tell me your story

Unusual tips for becoming a better writer James Altucher

Write like you talk by Paul Graham

The anatomy of the perfect blog post, Buffer

Do you have favourite writing tips or articles? I’d love to know 😌

Why its OK to quit your social enterprise

Why its OK to quit your social enterprise

I quit my first business when I was 15. It was an eBay store, Sweet Talk. Reselling 10p books I bought at my local library and over stock car chargers from my Dads shop. I loved it. Keeping track of the finances, paypal, speaking to customers.

I’d read Rich Dad Poor Dad and had been truly bitten by the entrepreneurial bug. Then GCSE’s started and I found it was difficult to balance the two. So Sweet Talk closed.

I quit my latest business a couple of months ago. This was meant to be the one. I’d had a bit of an epiphany in my final year of architecture at uni and realised that I was passion about using design to make a positive impact. Luckily I had a friend who shared the same idea and we decided to set up together. We were then asked by a friend who ran a charity with the same mission to join and set up a social enterprise with the charity.

It could not have been more perfect. We were setting up with a well established organisation. One that we loved, with a great reputation and experience.So we started our social enterprise.

The first months were amazing, we were moving forwards fast. Had projects opening up, got an amazing office space for free.

Then a big project fell through and suddenly we were re-examining the business model and looking at taking a very different direction. The only problem was I wasn’t comfortable with this

I tried convincing myself that I could work around it. Did lots of research looking at both sides, still wasn’t convinced. Raised my objections to my colleagues who had answers for every problem I could see, still didn’t feel right.

Then the thought hit me. Maybe I could just quit.

I felt guilty.
I’ll be letting everyone down!
I was afraid.
What will I do next? What if I’m wrong and its a huge success?
I felt like I was giving up.
Maybe if I try harder to like it or to convince the team of my point.

But in my gut I could feel it wasn’t right and it was time to move on. Speaking to my family and friends I realised that it was fine. The world wasn’t going to end on this decision.

It is easy to feel as though there’s something wrong with you for wanting to quit. All the stories we see are of successful people who never quit. No matter what. That’s why they are a success we are told.

Our culture is obsessed with perseverance, productivity and positivity.

Entrepreneurship embodies all this. It is the holy grail. The solution to all the worlds problems.

“winners never quit and quitters never win”
Quotes like this don’t make it easier
But its okay to quit
 quitting can be good
quitting isn’t the same as giving up.

Sometimes that path just isn’t right for you….
 It didn’t feel right for me, I didn’t believe in the new vision and story. I felt that there was a better way to achieve our social aims, and we were focusing on the wrong problem.

 But the path was right for my colleagues who are still continuing on. And I’m sure they will succeed. It just wasn’t for me.

Adjust….
Like Blake Lively who recently closed her online shop Preserve because “it wasn’t making a difference in peoples lives,’ social and ethical businesses can feel like everything. You personally invest in the vision. You want to save the world and it is a blow to realise it’s not quite what you want or even agree with.
Things had changed and with the information I now had, I could make a new decision.

To step out of the way…
Although conflict can be good, I didn’t want to be the “no” person. I realised if I couldn’t be passionate, it was better to get out of the way and allow people with that drive to continue.
…. pass on the baton. 

I have always been a believer in trying things. That’s one reason I’ve kept working for other social enterprises (as well as needing to pay the bills!)

Being able to see other ways of doing opened my eyes. I could work out what suits me and transfer learnings between the organisations.

I learned so much from the social enterprise. I learned a lot from leaving too. I learned that the method is as important to me as the problem the business is trying to solve. (Check out my next blog post for more learnings)

So if you’re thinking about quitting your business, job, project or whatever else. Think carefully about it and then go with your instinct. It’ll steer you right. And if you later realise it wasn’t the right choice. You can change your mind.

Quitting is not giving up.
It’s an opportunity to start again.
This time with more info.
Here are some great articles on quitting

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 8/10 businesses fail within their first year so quitting is more common than we think
8 things I learned from Architecture School

8 things I learned from Architecture School

Architecture school is definitely an experience like no other. I ended up going to 3 schools, in London, Glasgow and Vienna. A mix of traditional universities and arts schools, each with it’s own approach. Architecture students were the same everywhere working all day and sometimes night, the studio’s buzzing with chat and creativity. I ended up making some life long friends and learning a lot not only about design but about an approach to life. Here are some great things I learned from architecture school.

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1. Presentation is important

Not only how you talk about your work but also how you visually depict it. We live in a highly visual age and if you can explain your idea visually it makes a huge impact. I also found that how you talk about your work makes a difference to how it’s perceived. It’s about having confidence in your ideas and work.

2. There is no correct answer

There are of course some things that you see that make no sense but good design is highly subjective, it takes for every to realise this but with creative courses like architecture there is no right answer. We all bring our own perspective that is formed by our experiences. This can be hard to see sometimes because each school has their own way of thinking about design, be it contextual, theoretical, narrative based or technical.

3. Choose your heroes carefully

every school has the people or offices they reference constantly and you absorb them by osmosis. The internet also make it easy to spend time swiping through beautiful photographs of buildings but a photograph cannot tell you as much as actually visiting the building can do.

4. Failure is part of learning

I failed second year and at the time it felt like the worst thing, however it ended up being a fantastic opportunity to take time away from intense study, explore what I wanted to do and even earn some money. I ended up learning so much in that time.

5. Fear is stifling

Some architecture schools seem to think they need to put the fear of God in students. Separate the wheat from the chaff, e.t.c e.tc, but I truly believe that fear is the biggest killer of creativity. It causes people to play it safe it afraid to take risks in case they “fail.” But failing is a step to succeeding.

6. How to do late nights

This is definitely one of the first things you learn at architecture, how to stay up all working all night. Especially around final deadlines and reviews. You end up sleeping in the studio and drinking a lot of energy drinks. It’s almost a badge of honour for architecture students and even working architects.

7. To have a life outside of the studio

I found that doing things outside of the studio gave me so much balance and perspective. I took salsa classes, joined the fashion society and took classes in other departments when I could. It was a tough one because architecture students like medical students often stick with people from their course and the intense hours make it almost impossible to do anything outside the course.

8. Don’t wait for permission

It took me till my final year, when I decided to do my final project on a slum in Lagos, Nigeria. I was on exchange in Vienna and the thesis tutor asked us to say the first project that came to our head when we thought about what we wanted to do. It was so refreshing to learn to just go for it, trust my instincts and not worry about how it’d end up. It was amazing.

Here’s a great post on Archi-ninja of the 10 things they don’t teach you in architecture school.

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Weeks learnings/ discoveries 21.03.15

Weeks learnings/ discoveries 21.03.15

Funny and thoughtful Nerdist interview with Benedict Cumberbatch

Time and fee advice for freelancers from Seth Godin

Interesting read on the art of creating connections from Spark Camp

Beautiful interactive online infographic of the daily routines of famous people

Why don’t we ask our educators to innovate in the same way we ask of other professions like medicine? A thought provoking question asked at SCDI forum 2015

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